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Posted June 7, 2010 at 10:35 AM

Children raised by lesbians fare "better"

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Lesbian and gay couples, and single women, have long been presumed by many to offer "worse" family structure for kids compared to two-parent heterosexual marriages. One new study reported in Time magazine indicates something we've long suspected. That might be a huge presumption.

Said the lead researcher, Nanette Gartrell -- a professor of psychiatry at University of California, San Francisco, and a law professor at University of California, Los Angeles -- whose study asked questions of the kids five times over a 17-year period: ""I was surprised to find that on some measures we found higher levels of [psychological] competency and lower levels of behavioral problems. It wasn't something I anticipated."

As the article pointed out: It's not clear exactly why children of lesbian mothers tend to do better than those in heterosexual families on certain measures. But after studying gay and lesbian families for 24 years, Gartrell has some theories. "They are very involved in their children's lives," she says of the lesbian parents. "And that is a great recipe for healthy outcomes for children. Being present, having good communication, being there in their schools, finding out what is going on in their schools and various aspects of the children's lives is very, very important."

The article also said something I've long promoted as an unusual strength of Choice Mom households as well: "Although such active involvement isn't unique to lesbian households, Gartrell notes that same-sex mothers tend to make that kind of parenting more of a priority. Because their children are more likely to experience discrimination and stigmatization as a result of their family circumstances, these mothers can be more likely to broach complicated topics, such as sexuality and diversity and tolerance, with their children early on. Having such a foundation may help to give these children more confidence and maturity in dealing with social differences and prejudices as they get older."

Find the full news article here.

Reader Comments

Posted June 7, 2010 at 6:49 PM

Wow. Thank you for this post. The facts and honestly you've displayed in this post are superb. Technically, I am not a Choice Mom, but I do fully support them & respect them. As a single mother (by divorce) I understand the power of a mother's love and respect the moms of this site for their courage and intense passion to give a child the gift of love.

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