Of the hundreds of stories I've heard from Choice Moms over the years, one of the most common threads I've heard in hindsight is "I wish I hadn't waited so long."
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Posted July 12, 2010 at 8:00 AM
#1 regret: waiting too long to conceive
Commentary from Mikki
3 Regrets in hindsight
What do women wish they had known before they embarked on the Choice Mom journey?
Regret #1: waiting (6.5 minutes)
Regret #2: doctor (11 minutes)
Regret #3: origin story (10 minutes)
Many women report that they stayed with a partner too long who ended up really not wanting to start a family. Others said they were on the thinking path for so many years, often saving money, that when it came time to conceive it cost much more than they bargained for because their fertility was in decline.
The rule of thumb, based on most fertility experts I've talked to, is that a woman over the age of 35 needs to find out how much time she has with her eggs, if she plans to use them. It varies considerably -- not always related to fitness level and overall health, as many women erroneously believe.
These three audio clips from my "Choosing Single Motherhood" radio show (originally launched Fall 2009) highlights the top 3 regrets of women in hindsight.
Reader Comments
Posted August 9, 2010 at 9:42 AM
Now in the thinking stage. I'm 36 and 5 mos and hoping to reach trying (if I do) within the next year. I'd like to get in better shape and lose weight before trying to conceive to better my chances. Any advice?
Posted July 14, 2010 at 8:56 PM
Yes, yes - don't wait. I started thinking at 39, but just was stuck because I wanted the traditional family. I started trying at 42.10 - too late. Seven tries and my eggs were all bad; went to donor egg and found that even with good eggs, I had an immune issue and couldn't carry. After 2.5 years of fertility treatments, moved to adoption, have now been on the waiting list 10 mos. 3.5 years just trying to become a mom - who knew?
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Posted September 10, 2010 at 6:54 PM by Sandra
Cynthia - Don't wait to much longer. I started trying at 37 with a visit to a RE and ended up with 3 IUIs and 2 IVF's, but finally got a positive result and am expecting in April. I kept putting it off, hoping and wish I hadn't as the past year has been very hard on me and my mom (who is my support during the process). Every moment counts and when you see and hear the baby's heart beat for the first time, it makes it all worth it. Good luck to you!!