1) how it's easier to launch our young men into the world because life is easier for them, especially career-wise; 2) but women from an engineer to firefighters stepped in to say that the world is changing and the only ones who can limit our potential as women is ourselves.

I tend to err on the side of the latter. A recent Pew Center Report was released that indicated that women now make up more than half of the college graduates, and that a larger share of women are married to men with less education and lower income than they have. In 1970, only 4 percent of American-born couples, aged 30-44, reported that the woman had the higher income, compared to 22 percent in 2007. And in 1970, 28 percent of couples reported that men had the higher education level, compared to 19 percent in 2007 (just over half in each year had the same level).

Granted, men still corner the market in these two "high achievement" markers. And it's not always easy for women to break through imposed barriers. But there have been dramatic shifts in just one generation. In my view, it's inevitable that women are only now beginning to hit their stride, only a few decades out of the Happy Homemaker era of the 1950s. Whether we want to dedicate ourselves to mothering or working or something in between, we are increasingly able -- with economics and support networks on our side -- to call our own shots.

Of course, the debate in the outside world will rage on as well. Are women, by virtue of their growing autonomy, becoming less "in need" of husbands and fathers for their children? Or is that a role that -- "needed" or not -- is still something most of us in the straight Choice Mom community want?

(see related: interview with Lori Gottlieb about her book "Marry Him")

What do you think? What is your dream?