1) When did you start on the Choice Mom path? My Choice Mom path was a bit of a different route than some women. I have a child from previous marriage and after the shock of getting divorce and not having the opportunity to expand my family through that means I chose to be a Choice Mom. I researched and planned for nearly a year before I tried. I became pregnant after the second IUI with an open donor at the age of 38. I have a wonderful 6 year old son and beautiful 1-year old daughter.

2) What were your biggest challenges/hurdles in the Thinking/Trying stage? Having the patience until I could start! Once I decided I was going to do it I knew I needed to save money and get all of my supports in place. I had a consultation with my RE early on in the thinking stage to get some questions answered and develop a timeline. As for supports, I had a network of family and friends that were 100% behind me while I was thinking/trying; I found that to be helpful.

3) What have been your greatest challenges and joys since becoming a Mom? At my daughter's one year mark I realized I had expected the first year to be more difficult than it was - what a relief! My greatest challenges has been to learn to let go of some things. Worrying about a squeaky clean house isn't important or falling behind on the laundry isn't hurting anything. When one or both of the kids get sick that is a bit trying because of having to take off work but I have recently enlisted "sick sitters" in that time of need and that has helped. My list of joys could go on and on. I love seeing the bond between both of the children, the fun we have as a family, the random hugs and kisses!

4) What one piece of advice would you give women now? Don't let all the outside factors stop you from forging ahead. You will have critics; ignore them. Consult with an RE to get a feel for the process (i.e. appointments), etc. As for being a mom, take one day at a time; enjoy the journey.

5) What kinds of resources are you helping us build for the Choice Mom community? I am one of the Choice Mom contacts in the Philadelphia area willing to lend an ear, support or advice as needed.