After Holly shared her story with the Choice Mom community, she received some wonderful feedback about dealing with the chaos of single parenthood.
Posted May 9, 2011 at 12:05 PM
After Holly shared her story with the Choice Mom community, she received some wonderful feedback about dealing with the chaos of single parenthood.
She wrote them this note of thanks:
"I keep meaning to write back in to thank you all for your wonderful support, but this week has just been hectic and involved at work, and my energy low as a result when the day is done.
What came full circle for me was taking stock of where I'm at *right now* and finding the pieces that trigger that feeling of being in an uncomfortable place and space. Truly, it's been a rediscovery (as life should be) of looking at getting my "internal house" in order before I can get my "external house" in order. And it holds true again. I'm in the midst of advocating heavily for my babe in the school system, and for therapies, and it's just a raw emotional place to be on. Seriously, if we could just have some warm weather, I think that would go a LONG way with me right now!
The idea of swapping homes to help clear the "stuff" out or organize while the kiddo's play and we also drink wine -- wowee! Where can I sign up?!
As much as I have zero desire to share in this chaos...I love that we have this wonderfully supportive community to come to when we DO struggle or just need a time to lean on fellow single moms, even for a bit. So...many thanks.
What does make it harder is that my daughter still doesn't sleep through the night. There are SO many other things she DOES do so incredibly amazingly well, and with such grace and passion, that eventually, someday, she'll find ways to self regulate to navigate her days in ways she feels comfortable doing.
So, super-mom I'm clearly not, but in a family of overachieving Type-A people, the level of achievement we strive for is high. It's not a bad thing, honestly, it's just what and who our family is and always has been from as young as I can remember.
"Do your best" held strong growing up -- whatever it meant to you and it still holds true, I suppose. So, I know I do get involved in A LOT and there's wonderful internal and intrinsic nourishment in that for me. But I also need to learn how to say "no" as well (that's the hard one!!)
Off to find out why it's a little bit too quiet in the other room. Thanks all for your wonderful support and honesty. I cannot tell you how amazing it's been to be on the receiving end of it all."
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