Posted October 7, 2011 at 9:49 AM by Valerie

I've asked this question myself as I am now on my 2nd adoption program (the first one closed) and considering DE IVF. How far do I go? When do I quit? How do I live if I do quit? I still don't know how to answer those questions but I did take a week vacation in a very pretty spot and just tried to forget about it. It worked in the sense that I was able to step back emotionally and see that I still want this. Taking a break doesn't have to be for a long time but do give yourself a rest for at least a little while. Best of luck and our prayers are with you.

Posted August 22, 2011 at 6:23 PM by Amy

My comment to the questioner is: I am in the same situation as you - after 11 IUIs - some medicated, an IVF, and one "chemical pregnancy," I was told I should no longer try conceiving with my own eggs. Portions of my efforts were covered by insurance which was a great relief. My fertility issue has been largely unexplained except for age - I am 43 though have been trying for a few years. What helped me make a decision was several people, including my doctor, commenting that a child conceived by donor egg may not be genetically related to you or a partner (if you are also using donor sperm), but it will be your biological child, because your body will give it life. Also, I have friends who experienced very tough times after adopting, but (perhaps foolishly?) I don't feel the same way about giving birth. I haven't signed the dotted line yet but this is where my thoughts are headed. I feel the author's pain with this decision. Best of luck.

Posted August 15, 2011 at 5:54 PM by Karen

I am curious to know if the author of the original post has decided anything? I just found out today that my 3rd IUI which was medicated resulted in a BFN. I am so sad and disappointed. I had cramping a few days after the IUI and thought for sure this time was it. From what my RE tells me all my levels are good and he doesn't see a reason why it's not working. My 3rd time was going to be my last as I am spent emotionally and financially. None of this is covered by my health insurance. However the thought of not experiencing pregnancy is devasting. I'll need to think about it and decide how to move forward after this sinks in and I have another consult with RE. At this point I'm also thinking of adoption. Congrats to author of 2nd post.

Posted July 10, 2011 at 7:08 AM by Goarka

I think this is one of the MOST DIFFICULT decisions to make. Although my "trying" stage was relatively short (6 months and 3 IUI's) it was a journey that took me thinking I was finished trying, too. After my second IUI, I had a month with low antral follicle count and elevated FSH and Estradiol. My doctor's words were, "It's a difficult situation that takes significant emotional and financial consideration." When I researched the blood work, what I read was-start looking for an egg donor because your eggs are bad. This was not an option for me, so if this was the answer, I was out. I went back and forth about whether or not to try again... and finally tried one more time ONLY because I had already paid for the next vial of sperm. I went through the last IUI convinced it was a technicality and with thoughts to a cruise I was going to take since I wasn't going to be having a child...And here I am 6 months pregnant with a singleton boy.

This is such a difficult and personal decision. All I can say is I kept asking myself two questions: 1) In ten years will I regret not trying again? 2) Have I taken myself to the financial and emotional limit?

Best wishes and warm regards.