Donor Sperm

Voices of Donor Conception

Years ago I collaborated with Wendy and Ryan Kramer, the mother-and-son co-founders of Donor Sibling Registry, on some new tools for families created by donor conception. This was one of them. Behind Closed Doors: Moving Beyond Secrecy and Shame” is a 100-page book about the donor sperm industry, from the perspective of three donor-conceived adults,…

Q: How does your open identity donor policy work?

This is one in a series of Q&As I conducted with members of the donor sperm industry in 2010. The goal was to help educate Choice Moms-in-the-making about important policies that should help inform their decision about which bank to work with, even before choosing a donor. Note: The 2015 Choice Mom E-Guide: About Sperm…

When “father” is “donor”: my legal story (Part 2)

This is a continuation of Lori’s story, who realized that someday her donor-conceived child might need to qualify for federal student loans. Since the paperwork requires income records for both parents, and since there are plenty of other occasions in her state of Alabama where having a blank or "none" on the birth certificate might not work with government employees, she wanted to be proactive. She was surprised to learn recently what she really needed it for.

Q: How do sperm banks recruit donors?

Note: this article, and more, also appears in the 37-page 2015 Choice Mom E-Guide: About Sperm. This is one in a series of policy comparisons ChoiceMoms.org has written about the donor sperm industry. It’s important for Choice Moms to be comfortable not only with a particular donor, but with the sperm bank that recruits and…

Asking the Right Questions: Sperm banks

It is more important to start your donor search with selection of the right sperm bank, before identifying donor characteristics. Arm yourself with this checklist of questions to begin the process. Note: this article, and more, also appears in the 37-page 2015 Choice Mom E-Guide: About Sperm. In recent years, media reports, legal cases and…

Thawing sperm and testing its motility

A woman asked on the discussion board: “Does anyone know how important it is that you have a doctor who is experienced in handling frozen sperm and the cryopack, and warming the little guys up? My first two attempts were the first two times my clinic has ever handled frozen sperm, in our little town…

Getting a sperm bank refund

What do you do if your doctor tests the thawed sperm and discovers that the count seems low? Can you get a refund? One woman on the Choice Mom board reported that she requested a refund, only to find that she was given a 40% refund for a low-count vial, instead of 100%, because the…

Open-identity donors

Once upon a time, doctors advised infertile couples to keep the fact of donor conception a secret from everyone, including the child. Led partly by the lessons of adoption, and especially with more importance today placed on knowing ones genetic markers and family medical histories, being able to make limited contact with the donor someday has become encouraged.