This week I consulted with two women who have similar origin stories for their child — both used a known sperm donor — but very different concerns as a result. As a Mother’s Day message, to all who are Thinking, Trying and Being moms on their own, I share some words of wisdom from a…
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Choice Moms everywhere have been discussing the ramifications of the case in Kansas in which a sperm donor is being asked by the state to pay child support for the child conceived to a lesbian couple.
One of our Choice Mom-friendly legal experts, Chris Tymchuck, of Unique Estate Law, used third-party reproduction to build a family with her partner. Here is her special insight on what to know about the process of using a known donor.
This woman shared her story on the Choice Moms discussion board, and I thought it was a great reminder to women using a known donor: Make sure you talk about sperm testing before spending too much time trying to conceive.
When your uncle is also the sperm donor who helped your lesbian parents conceive, you might presume "the" conversation about your origins would be a hard one. And what happens afterward?
Choice Mom adviser Ami Jaeger (Santa Fe) generously offers this advice and more, as available in the Choice Mom Guide to Fertility:
If you decide to conceive with the assistance of a known donor, there are several critical legal steps that you should complete with him to clarify your expectations and intentions. It is important to take these steps to protect your legal relationship with the child.
Three important documents have been supplied by Choice Moms.
1. Jessica created a list of comprehensive questions to discuss with her known donor candidates to help put expectations into contract form.
2. Fiona is a Canadian family attorney, who offered a sample agreement to use as a template for a known donor contract.
3. A co-parenting agreement has also been offered as a sample.
A growing number of independent websites and discussion groups have formed that connect donors directly with people who are in search of sperm. There obviously are no safeguards with this kind of contact. Many of the donors indicate they are giving altruistically, motivated only to help people create families.