Choice Mom E-guide: Finding Support

Visit our Eguides page for access to the FREE “2016 Choice Mom E-Guide: Finding Support.” What help will you need on the single mother by choice journey? Where will you find it? Insights shared by Choice Moms from our 2016 survey and therapists who support resources for this community.

Special thanks to long-time Choice Mom supporters Dr. Joann Paley Galst (NYC) and Dr. Deborah Simmons (Twin Cities) who were the first therapists to offer sponsorship support to help me take the time to create this e-guide.


SAMPLE INSIGHTS

“I wish I would have known about the potential for losses and what that would be like. I had six losses in two years. It was brutal… isolating. Going through that process alone was a challenge.”

“The infant stage was the most frightening at the beginning, but also the most short lived. Don’t get too overwhelmed with all the new baby stuff, get help if you need it (lactation, sleep) and enjoy it.”

“I wish I had come to this decision earlier. It is hard being an older mom in a sea of young moms and would have had the option of a second if I had started younger – feel like I wasted those years when I could have been a mom.”


Joann Paley Galst“If you are feeling emotionally and/or physically exhausted by treatment, can no longer tolerate the wait to become a parent, and feel you are missing out on years of your life, you may be at the fork in the road leading you to alternative family building options. Your response to the above issues, weighted in their order of importance to you, can help you make a decision. Many people grapple for a prolonged period of time in attempting to make the “right” choice for themselves, forgetting that we human beings have an amazing ability to make our choices “right” for us once we make them.” Dr. Joann Paley Galst


Deborah Simmons and Mikki Morrissette

Deborah and I at ASRM convention

Q: How do I get over feeling like my body has failed me on top of missing out on doing this with a partner? “This question brings with it feelings of sadness, loss, and shame. I know that you would not tell another woman that her body has failed her and that she has messed up in some way in not finding a partner. Why would you say it to yourself? You are a good woman who is grieving. The more compassion you can have for yourself the better you will heal and open yourself to parenting with joy and peace. If you are blaming yourself and cannot shake off shame or guilt, I strongly recommend that you seek out counseling with someone well-trained in infertility counseling.” — Dr. Deborah Simmons


 

finding-support-coverStep 1: Admitting the Tough Part

  • You Can’t Do It Alone
  • Voices From ChoiceMoms.org
  • After Parenthood

Step 2: Finding Support

  • When Networks Fail
  • Community Acceptance
  • Tips for Extending Your Network
  • Expert Insights
  • The Insight of Therapists
  • Recommended Service Providers

Step 3: Take Care of Yourself

  • #1 Choice Mom Myth
  • Commentaries From Mikki

Resources 

  • E-guides
  • Podcasts

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