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Posted September 13, 2010 at 11:40 AM

What Choice Moms are listening to

filed under: podcast, feature, adoption, anonymous donor, becoming, being, commentary, daddy question, dating, emotions, event insights, expert insight, fertility, genetics, growing up without a father, healthy living, home insemination, known donor, legal, miscarriage, money matters, newborn, numbers, parenting, profile, resources, sperm, , stress relief, support network, thinking, trying, waiting, doula, ChoiceChat

Lately I have been hearing from women who would love for me to return to creating new podcasts. I took 2011 off from the work, but hope to return this year with new shows -- and perhaps a webinar series! I currently have 46 shows available, with more than 39,000 downloads. Here's what's available.

Posted July 1, 2011 at 8:10 AM

The male role model connection

filed under: being, Boston, growing up without a father, daddy question, telling and talking

I'm about to send my son off for a week to a camp near the Boundary Waters Canoe Area with two families (married couples, each with one child who is a good friend of his).

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Posted June 14, 2011 at 10:15 PM

Jane Mattes: On the Daddy Question

filed under: daddy question, being, choicekids, parenting, growing up without a father, telling and talking

Many of our children ask questions about their fathers, and right now, with Father’s Day approaching, we are all thinking and talking more about it. When we made the decision to become an SMC, this subject was, for many of us, the one which we were most concerned about, and rightly so. Deciding to raise a child without a father has a real impact on our children and on us.

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Posted June 12, 2011 at 3:20 PM

Danielle: meeting half siblings

filed under: being, ChoiceKids, daddy question, donor offspring, profile, Seattle

I am a Choice Mom of twin girls who are now 6. I did artificial insemination in the U.S. with sperm that could not cross the border into Canada. This is my story of making contact with half siblings.

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Posted May 3, 2011 at 7:05 AM

Q&A: celebrating Father's Day

filed under: being, daddy question, anonymous donor, ChoiceKids, donor conception, donor offspring, expert insight, growing up without a father, Minnesota, parenting, podcast, QandA, resources, telling and talking, becoming

How do we celebrate Father's Day?

Posted May 3, 2011 at 6:30 AM

Q&A: Talking about half-siblings

filed under: being, daddy question, anonymous donor, ChoiceKids, donor conception, donor offspring, expert insight, growing up without a father, Minnesota, parenting, podcast, QandA, resources, telling and talking, becoming

A San Francisco Choice Mom wrote to me recently, asking how to address the half-sibling topic with her son. She's been in contact with two lesbian couples on the East Coast who have sons from the same donor.

Posted April 20, 2011 at 8:15 AM

Q&A: the daddy question

filed under: being, daddy question, anonymous donor, ChoiceKids, donor conception, donor offspring, expert insight, growing up without a father, Minnesota, parenting, podcast, QandA, resources, telling and talking, becoming

This has come up so frequently lately that I want to focus our attention again on responses to these topics: What do we tell our children, and others, about how they were conceived? About why they don't have a dad?

Posted April 13, 2011 at 5:50 AM

Last Call for Choice Kid artists

filed under: being, ChoiceKids, parenting, growing up without a father, daddy question

Choice Mom Stacey MacGlashan (author of "Just You and Me, Kid") is working with Choice Moms LLC on a 24-page storybook for kids. It is a lovely story about a girl who gets asked by another child, "why don't you have a dad?" And it needs illustrators.

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Posted April 7, 2011 at 6:00 AM

Author interview: Impact of Fathers on Daughters

filed under: expert insight, growing up without a father, daddy question, thinking, ChoiceChat, ChoiceKids, parenting, politics, QandA, research, being

Several years ago there was some measure of relief among Choice Moms -- and consternation among some others -- when author Peggy Drexler published Raising Boys Without Men that revealed that boys in homes headed by single mothers by choice and lesbian couples were doing quite well. Now she's published a book about the impact fathers have on daughters.

Posted April 5, 2011 at 6:35 PM

Special Choice Mom resource compilation

filed under: resources, fertility, adoption, donor conception, donor offspring, tips, expert insight, sperm bank, thinking, trying, waiting, being, checklist, feature, daddy question, growing up without a father

As we develop more (largely FREE!) e-books and other special guides for the Choice Mom community, I thought this would be a good place to list everything so far available. This list will grow, so keep checking back.

Posted March 31, 2011 at 6:40 AM

Conscious Conversation #2

filed under: commentary, thinking, becoming, being, daddy question, donor offspring, ChoiceKids, growing up without a father, parenting, profile, telling and talking

Here it is...the end of the month when we focused on Conscious Conversations, and it took me weeks to get to THIS conversation with you. Isn't that the trickiness of our lives? How to make time for what matters, when the minutia of everyday gets in our way.

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Posted February 23, 2011 at 7:05 AM

My daughter is feeling sorry for me

filed under: commentary, thinking, trying, waiting, becoming, being, ChoiceKids, parenting, daddy question, dating, partners, stress, emotions

As we were driving through yet another snowstorm in Minneapolis the other day, so I could get my 11-year-old daughter to a birthday party, she suggested I get a husband.

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Posted November 17, 2010 at 6:55 AM

Q&A: my child is calling my ex-boyfriend "daddy"

filed under: being, ChoiceKids, daddy question, QandA, dating

A 5-year-old Choice Kid started referring to a woman's ex-boyfriend as "daddy" even though he had proven to be not good father material and the mother had ended the relationship six months earlier. He hadn't been in their life since. The girl was saying that she "missed her daddy," even though she'd never referred to him that way before.

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Posted September 15, 2010 at 11:55 AM

Debating the politics of Choice Motherhood

filed under: thinking, trying, waiting, being, telling and talking, ChoiceKids, commentary, daddy question, growing up without a father, hot topic, resources, policy, parenting, politics

A woman who is preparing to write about the Choice Motherhood lifestyle in a community that doesn't think single parenting is such a good thing asked me to offer some resources. I realized that many of you might benefit from some of it, in your own conversations with others.

Posted August 28, 2010 at 7:10 AM

Proving my child's "father" was "donor" (Part 1)

filed under: legal, trying, waiting, being, anonymous donor, ChoiceKids, daddy question, donor offspring, insemination, known donor, money matters, policy, sperm, profile

submitted by Lori
Will you ever have to prove your donor child doesn’t have a father? When I gave birth to my daughter via anonymous donor IUI in 1999, I hoped that the information regarding her father would be left blank on her birth certificate.

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Posted August 16, 2010 at 12:10 PM

What Matters to Our Kids?

filed under: thinking, being, commentary, profile, daddy question, donor offspring, genetics, growing up without a father, hot topic, inspiration, parenting

A few years ago a producer for noted conservative commentator Bill O'Reilly called to test me for a potential debate with his boss about why Choice Moms dislike men. Maybe it's because I was pretty easy-going in my responses, but I was never booked for the show. In his recent remarks about Choice Motherhood, however, I see he still has a bug up his

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Posted July 24, 2010 at 3:20 AM

Notes from the U.K.

filed under: thinking, trying, waiting, being, research, donor offspring, emotions, support network, money matters, ChoiceKids, daddy question, event insights, UnitedKingdom, telling and talking, regional guides

Thanks to the generosity of Choice Mom Emily, I've been able to spend a wonderful 10-day holiday in London with my kids and parents. While here I met in Coram's Field with 14 women, including Moms, Thinkers and Tryers from Belfast, Dublin, Belgium and many others in the United Kingdom. I also met with a large group of Ph.D. students in Cambridge, who were interested in the Choice Mom story.

Posted June 29, 2010 at 8:00 AM

Q&A: Answering the questions of other kids

filed under: being, telling and talking, daddy question, ChoiceKids, donor offspring, emotions, growing up without a father, hot topic, parenting, QandA

submitted by Christy
My daughter is 2.5 years old. She is a little girl who doesn't need to ask a lot of questions, doesn't seem to need a lot of prep information, and simply adjusts at the time to whatever is happening around her. She doesn't yet ask why she doesn't have a dad, or who her donor is. But other kids are now starting to do so.

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Posted April 24, 2010 at 8:20 AM

Recommended reading with our kids

filed under: being, book, ChoiceKids, daddy question, growing up without a father, parenting, resources, telling and talking

We love reading stories with our kids about non-traditional families. Here are some of the books that have been recommended by Choice Moms.

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Posted April 19, 2010 at 10:20 AM

Yee-ha: The public debate is on

filed under: being, ChoiceKids, commentary, daddy question, emotions, growing up without a father, hot topic, news, parenting, policy, research, support network, telling and talking

Well here it is...the public debate between a Glenn Sacks father's rights crony (Robert Franklin) and myself on PublicSquare.net. Read, laugh, seethe, comment. I actually love the opportunity to offer a rational perspective, even if my opponent has a decidedly different viewpoint. Such as Franklin's view that Choice Moms often trick men into having kids and then lie to keep them out of the child's life. Here's a synopsis, with links to the full debate.

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Posted March 4, 2010 at 3:50 PM

Our 3 biggest regrets

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, emotions, being, ChoiceChat, ChoiceKids, doctor, commentary, daddy question, donor offspring, open-identity donor, open adoption, telling and talking

There are three things Choice Moms report in hindsight are their biggest regrets. What do you think they are?

3 Regrets in hindsight

What do women wish they had known before they embarked on the Choice Mom journey?

Regret #1: waiting (6.5 minutes)

Regret #2: doctor (11 minutes)

Regret #3: origin story (10 minutes)

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Posted February 11, 2010 at 5:50 PM

Do I Have a Dad?

filed under: being, daddy question, ChoiceKids, growing up without a father, expert insight, donor offspring, emotions, anonymous donor, open-identity donor, known donor, nyc, SanFrancisco, UnitedKingdom, telling and talking, donor conception, resources

We're building an audio library featuring the best of our Choosing Single Motherhood radio show and Choice Chat podcasts. You can order the first of this collection, "Choice Moms Answer the Tough Questions: Do I Have a Dad?" (formerly a CD product, available here for immediate $7 download).

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