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Posted August 28, 2010 at 7:10 AM

Proving my child's "father" was "donor" (Part 1)

filed under: legal, trying, waiting, being, anonymous donor, Choice Kids, daddy question, donor offspring, insemination, known_donor, money matters, policy, sperm, profile

submitted by Lori
Will you ever have to prove your donor child doesn’t have a father? When I gave birth to my daughter via anonymous donor IUI in 1999, I hoped that the information regarding her father would be left blank on her birth certificate.

What Matters to Our Kids?

filed under: thinking, being, commentary, profile, daddy question, donor offspring, genetics, growing up without a father, hot topic, inspiration, parenting

A few years ago a producer for noted conservative commentator Bill O'Reilly called to test me for a potential debate with his boss about why Choice Moms dislike men. Maybe it's because I was pretty easy-going in my responses, but I was never booked for the show. In his recent remarks about Choice Motherhood, however, I see he still has a bug up his

Notes from the U.K.

filed under: thinking, trying, waiting, being, research, donor offspring, emotions, support network, money matters, Choice Kids, daddy question, events, United Kingdom, telling and talking

Thanks to the generosity of Choice Mom Emily, I've been able to spend a wonderful 10-day holiday in London with my kids and parents. While here I met in Coram's Field with 14 women, including Moms, Thinkers and Tryers from Belfast, Dublin, Belgium and many others in the United Kingdom. I also met with a large group of Ph.D. students in Cambridge, who were interested in the Choice Mom story.

Answering the questions of other kids

filed under: being, telling and talking, daddy question, Choice Kids, donor offspring, emotions, growing up without a father, hot topic, parenting

submitted by Christy
My daughter is 2.5 years old. She is a little girl who doesn't need to ask a lot of questions, doesn't seem to need a lot of prep information, and simply adjusts at the time to whatever is happening around her. She doesn't yet ask why she doesn't have a dad, or who her donor is. But other kids are now starting to do so.

Yee-ha: The public debate is on

filed under: being, Choice Kids, commentary, daddy question, emotions, growing up without a father, hot topic, news, parenting, policy, research, support network, telling and talking

Well here it is...the public debate between a Glenn Sacks father's rights crony (Robert Franklin) and myself on PublicSquare.net. Read, laugh, seethe, comment. I actually love the opportunity to offer a rational perspective, even if my opponent has a decidedly different viewpoint. Such as Franklin's view that Choice Moms often trick men into having kids and then lie to keep them out of the child's life. Here's a synopsis, with links to the full debate.

Our 3 biggest regrets

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, emotions, being, Choice Chat, Choice Kids, choosing doctor, commentary, daddy question, donor offspring, open-identity donor, open adoption, telling and talking

There are three things Choice Moms report in hindsight are their biggest regrets. What do you think they are?

3 Regrets in hindsight

What do women wish they had known before they embarked on the Choice Mom journey?

Regret #1: waiting (6.5 minutes)

Regret #2: doctor (11 minutes)

Regret #3: origin story (10 minutes)

Do I Have a Dad?

filed under: being, daddy question, Choice Kids, growing up without a father, expert insight

We're building an audio library featuring the best of our Choosing Single Motherhood radio show and Choice Chat podcasts. You can order the first of this collection, "Choice Moms Answer the Tough Questions: Do I Have a Dad?" (formerly a CD product, available here for immediate $7 download). After you place your order, we will send you a special code for access here: