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Posted September 13, 2010 at 11:40 AM

What Choice Moms are listening to

filed under: podcast, feature, adoption, anonymous donor, becoming, being, commentary, daddy question, dating, emotions, event insights, expert insight, fertility, genetics, growing up without a father, healthy living, home insemination, known donor, legal, miscarriage, money matters, newborn, numbers, parenting, profile, resources, sperm, , stress relief, support network, thinking, trying, waiting, doula, ChoiceChat

Lately I have been hearing from women who would love for me to return to creating new podcasts. I took 2011 off from the work, but hope to return this year with new shows -- and perhaps a webinar series! I currently have 46 shows available, with more than 39,000 downloads. Here's what's available.

Posted October 21, 2011 at 8:50 AM

NEW: Regional E-Guide for Toronto Choice Moms

filed under: Toronto, fertility, doctor, emotions, event insights, feature, trying, thinking, being, parenting, regional guides, support network, tips

I am happy to announce the launch of our regional e-guides -- compilations of resources and expert insight coming out of our Choice Mom Networking Events in particular cities. These e-guides will be of great help to women in those communities -- advice from local Choice Mom-friendly doctors, for example -- and some of the insights will certainly be of value to women everywhere, such as understanding what a doula might do for you.

Posted April 5, 2011 at 6:35 PM

Special Choice Mom resource compilation

filed under: resources, fertility, adoption, donor conception, donor offspring, tips, expert insight, sperm bank, thinking, trying, waiting, being, checklist, feature, daddy question, growing up without a father

As we develop more (largely FREE!) e-books and other special guides for the Choice Mom community, I thought this would be a good place to list everything so far available. This list will grow, so keep checking back.

Posted April 4, 2011 at 10:45 AM

Are IUI and IVF not viable for you? Other options...

filed under: trying, waiting, adoption, donor egg, eggs, embryo, emotions, expert insight, feature, IVF, podcast, surrogacy, stress

Back in August 2010, two wonderful colleagues talked with each other in a radio show about moving beyond the "simple" conception options to surrogacy, adoption, embryo donation, egg donation and more. Here are highlights, and a direct link to the show.

Posted March 22, 2011 at 11:25 AM

Guide to Sperm Banks and Donor Conception

filed under: sperm bank, trying, checklist, donor conception, donor offspring, feature, open-identity donor, thinking, being, policy, QandA, resources, sperm, sperm donor, tips

It's finally here! The Choice Mom Guide to Donor Sperm. Click here for the e-book, available as a complimentary guidebook for anyone who is choosing or has chosen sperm donation to build their family.

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Posted January 21, 2011 at 8:40 AM

Choice Chat: The ups and downs of adoption

filed under: thinking, adoption, Texas, trying, emotions, ChoiceChat, profile, feature, foster care, international adoption, open adoption, stress, transracial, waiting

Writes Valerie: "I've been at a bus stop for a month now.

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Posted December 28, 2010 at 12:20 PM

Choice Tips of 2010

filed under: resources, tips, thinking, trying, waiting, becoming, being, adoption, fertility, support network, QandA, regional guides, commentary, donor conception, emotions, event insights, expert insight, feature, home insemination, known donor, legal, money matters, newborn, parenting, organization, podcast, stress, telling and talking

Here it is! For a limited time, the special new baby for our Choice Mom community. Our Choice of ChoiceMoms.org tips from 2010, featuring everything from Organization to Building a Support Network, Q&A to Commentary.

Posted August 11, 2010 at 2:55 PM

Finding the support we need

filed under: support network, thinking, trying, waiting, becoming, being, commentary, feature, event insights, telling and talking, WashingtonDC, resources

It's hard for self-sufficient women to ask for help -- or even acknowledge to ourselves that we need it. But we do. Even more than we care to admit, because we tend to be so hard on ourselves. This month I'm thinking about the kinds of support Choice Moms need, and how we can get and give it as a community.

Posted July 20, 2010 at 3:05 AM

Donor conception "research"

filed under: anonymous donor, feature, donor offspring, ChoiceKids, insemination, sperm bank, commentary, research

I've been asked by some to offer comment on the study about donor-conceived kids that was released in May 2010 by the Commission on Parenthood's Future, in conjunction with the Institute of American Values.

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Posted July 5, 2010 at 8:55 AM

Ask the Fertility Expert

filed under: podcast, fertility, trying, expert insight, feature, insemination, ChoiceChat

I have interviewed many fertility experts for questions specifically posed by the Choice Mom community. Here are audio clips from some of those conversations.

Fertility Q&A

How does follicle count matter?

How does my age impact my fertility?

What should I understand about my eggs?

What are your treatment options?

What effect does stress have on fertility?

How does my weight have an impact?

Posted June 28, 2010 at 2:25 PM

Asking the Right Questions: Sperm banks

filed under: thinking, trying, donor offspring, ChoiceKids, feature, anonymous donor, insemination, open-identity donor, expert insight, tips, checklist

It is more important to start your donor search with selection of the right sperm bank, before identifying donor characteristics. Arm yourself with this checklist of questions to begin the process.

Posted June 2, 2010 at 7:00 AM

The politics of defining who we are

filed under: being, support network, feature, commentary, terms, growing up without a father, ChoiceKids, hot topic, parenting

I returned from a great primitive island camping trip with another Choice Mom, two dads, and the seven kids we have who have known each other for years. And one of the 30 emails waiting for me from the long weekend was the link to a blog from Kat Wilder, who is trying to understand who Choice Moms are, and why we do what we do.

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Posted May 24, 2010 at 12:30 PM

Support from city to city

filed under: support network, Minnesota, Seattle, Texas, Atlanta, SanFrancisco, NYC, WashingtonDC, Europe, event insights, UnitedKingdom, emotions, feature, resources, regional guides, LosAngeles, Australia, Canada, Chicago, NorthCarolina, Philadelphia, Toronto, Boston

I am happy to report that we have a new option to create five informal coffeeshop gatherings in a few cities in 2011. I'm reinvigorating an inquiry into which cities have women most interested in contact that they're not otherwise getting.

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Posted April 29, 2010 at 8:10 AM

Data on Choice Moms

filed under: being, survey, thinking, trying, podcast, feature, hot topic, news, research, numbers

It's been a big week for keeping up with media requests. NOT, as I had expected, because of my recent debate with a father's rights advocate (thanks to ALL of you for adding your voice to the comments on PublicSquare.net that show our rationality), but simply accidental. Thought you might be interested in hearing what I've been repeating this week about who we are.

Posted April 1, 2010 at 9:25 PM

When we do nothing...

filed under: money matters, thinking, emotions, expert insight, feature, resources, organization

I recently attended a talk by money counselor Ruth Hayden, author of "Your Money Life" workbook and many other resources for people who want to understand personal use (misuse?) of money and time. As she pointed out, the two are often linked. Here is some of what I learned.

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Posted March 16, 2010 at 1:00 PM

Creative solutions to simplifying life

filed under: Texas, support network, stress, feature, tips, money matters, event insights, work, house, parenting, IVF, tips

At the Austin Choice Moms event we started to talk about ways to simplify, and add flexibility to our work life, so that we can enjoy more time with our kids. How do we do it?

Posted February 20, 2010 at 4:45 PM

Creating an estate plan

filed under: money matters, legal, waiting, feature

After a Choice Mom died in her third trimester, leaving a son born posthumously, we became more aware of the importance of having an estate plan in place -- as this Choice Mom had done -- even BEFORE we conceive or adopt.

Posted February 7, 2010 at 10:25 PM

Step 1: Understand your fertility

filed under: trying, fertility, thinking, feature, expert insight

Perhaps the most common frustration expressed on the Choice Mom discussion board is the single woman who, in hindsight, wished she had started earlier to explore and use her own fertility. We tend to presume that if we have regular periods, are in good health, and are paying for costly insemination attempts with a doctor that conception will happen easily.

Posted January 30, 2010 at 7:00 AM

Can a white woman raise a non-white child?

filed under: adoption, transracial, hot topic, feature

A woman on the discussion board asked whether she would be capable of raising an African-American child, as a white woman. Here is one of the many great responses she got from Julia, whose child was adopted from Ethiopia, responded differently:

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Posted January 29, 2010 at 10:15 PM

Choosing a Sperm Bank Carefully

filed under: anonymous donor, trying, sperm bank, policy, podcast, feature, expert insight

A fatal heart condition was passed on to at least nine of a donor's 24 children. While screening for all genetic issues is not possible, the question is: if this came to light for your donor, how would you (and the donor) learn about it? Read new comments on this post, and add your own for our report card.

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