Posted December 22, 2011 at 8:25 AM

You Know You're Charting If....

filed under: waiting, trying, inspiration, ovulation

This funny compilation was started on the Choice Mom discussion group, where women have been periodically posting their own moments.

Posted December 22, 2011 at 7:55 AM

Moving to IVF after 40

filed under: trying, inspiration, IVF, ChoiceChat, eggs, being, waiting

On our yahoo discussion group for Choice Moms on the journey after the age of 40, a woman asked for stories of hope from others who had paid that kind of money, at that age, and found success.

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Posted December 15, 2011 at 8:15 AM

Living the Unexpected Life

filed under: commentary, growing up without a father, inspiration, thinking, trying, being, waiting, becoming, ChoiceKids

Once upon a time we all think we know how our lives will turn out. Then, bit by bit, year by year, we discover that we don't have quite as much control over that as we think we do. Some control, yes. But sometimes the control we have about our destiny has more to do with perspective than actual wish fulfillment.

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Posted February 28, 2011 at 9:05 AM

Priceless column from CNN's Jessica Ravitz

filed under: profile, dating, partners, thinking, trying, waiting, becoming, being, inspiration

We kick off our March focus on "conscious conversations" with this wonderful response by CNN's Jessica Ravitz to a Huffington Post commentary speculating why women like us are not married.

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Posted February 1, 2011 at 8:10 AM

On birthdays, disappointments and joy

filed under: commentary, thinking, trying, waiting, becoming, being, partners, emotions, inspiration, support network

My youngest turned 7 the other day. That means we're about to do his flower, representing the important people in his life right now. It's a favorite new tradition we created when the "family tree" assignments started five years ago, when my daughter was his age.

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Posted January 23, 2011 at 6:45 AM

Paula: After my husband died

filed under: being, donor egg, eggs, emotions, profile, trying, IVF, fertility, growing up without a father, inspiration, money matters, becoming, partners

It's great to find this community, and I'm so excited to get to know you all! My story goes like this. I was married to a wonderful man, John....

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Posted November 21, 2010 at 6:50 AM

Welcome to the Journey, Choice Mom families!

filed under: ChoiceKids, inspiration

Let's build a special mosaic of the beautiful children we are raising. Here's a start.

Posted November 18, 2010 at 9:40 AM

Book: instilling our kids with gratitude

filed under: being, parenting, book, ChoiceKids, inspiration, resources, simplify, tips

At Thanksgiving time, it's easy to remind ourselves and our kids to be thankful and appreciative. But what about all the other days of the year? I recently read several good tips from one book that might help.

Posted November 17, 2010 at 9:20 AM

Valerie: Surviving my home study

filed under: adoption, profile, inspiration, house, humor, parenting

I spent part of the morning worrying about my bathmat. Actually my lack of a bathmat. I’d spilled something on it some weeks ago and couldn’t get it clean so I’d thrown it away. I’d been using a towel as a mat ever since. What would the social worker doing my home study think of that?

Posted September 24, 2010 at 2:25 PM

Week 10: Being the Choice Mom to a newborn

filed under: becoming, waiting, newborn, support network, profile, stress, inspiration

This priceless -- and honest -- gem from Cathi about new motherhood comes from the archives of the Choice Moms blog, and I wanted to re-offer it to our new moms.

Posted August 30, 2010 at 2:45 PM

Building strong childhood memories

filed under: being, commentary, parenting, ChoiceKids, inspiration, growing up without a father

I get more melancholy about the end of summer than my kids do. They love school, and started the new school year today. About my own sadness about this time of year, I know that it's largely because my kids are the ones who teach me to play, not to work all the time.

Posted August 26, 2010 at 7:50 AM

Dixie Chicks song

filed under: waiting, 2ww, newborn, inspiration, ChoiceKids, parenting

Thanks to Jessica for suggesting this Dixie Chicks song for anyone in the Choice Mom community looking for inspirational music about becoming a single mother.

Posted August 20, 2010 at 6:40 PM

Stacey: Just You and Me, Kid

filed under: thinking, becoming, waiting, profile, book, inspiration

"Even the most independent or progressive among us didn't play house without at least going through the motions of assigning someone the dad role...Our childhood fairy tale fantasies involved Prince Charming and happily ever after, not donor number 5931...and a brief encounter with a syringe."

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Posted August 16, 2010 at 12:10 PM

What Matters to Our Kids?

filed under: thinking, being, commentary, profile, daddy question, donor offspring, genetics, growing up without a father, hot topic, inspiration, parenting

A few years ago a producer for noted conservative commentator Bill O'Reilly called to test me for a potential debate with his boss about why Choice Moms dislike men. Maybe it's because I was pretty easy-going in my responses, but I was never booked for the show. In his recent remarks about Choice Motherhood, however, I see he still has a bug up his

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Posted July 5, 2010 at 9:20 AM

What's love got to do with it?

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, fertility, stress, emotions, expert insight, insemination, SanFrancisco, inspiration

Even if insemination wasn't your first choice for having a child, there is still an important factor of love in the equation, as Maia Midwifery's Kristin Kali talked about at our Choice Mom event in San Francisco.

Fertility journey: Love and stress

At our San Francisco event, Maia Midwifery's Kristin Kali talked with women about the factors of love and stress in the fertility journey (9 minute clip)

Balancing love and stress

Posted June 27, 2010 at 7:20 AM

Daily Meditation

filed under: commentary, thinking, waiting, being, inspiration, emotions, stress, reviews, book, trying

I recently discovered the book "DailyOM: Inspirational Thoughts for a Happy, Healthy and Fulfilling Day." It is a great compilation of short philosophical insights from Madisyn Taylor, co-founder with her husband of the DailyOm website, including:

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Posted June 21, 2010 at 3:55 PM

Father's Day thoughts

filed under: growing up without a father, commentary, being, thinking, inspiration, ChoiceKids

I'm often asked how Choice Moms handle Father's Day. And we often wonder -- especially before we have kids, or when our children are quite young -- whether they are missing out on something important by growing up without a father.

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Posted April 29, 2010 at 12:30 PM

Living in the moment

filed under: Texas, emotions, inspiration, tips, expert insight, stress

I admit that the idea of 'living in the moment' can sometimes seem laughable to a Choice Mom, who is so busy juggling day-to-day responsibilities that no moment seems to last long enough to live on.

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Posted April 5, 2010 at 12:45 PM

Surviving Newborn Boot Camp as a Single Parent

filed under: podcast, newborn, becoming, emotions, inspiration, organization, support network, stress, breastfeeding, work, fertility

An Australian woman who is going to college in the U.S. while raising a newborn, and a firefighter with two young children, share their tips about how to survive baby boot camp as a single parent.

Posted March 5, 2010 at 7:20 PM

The Trance of Scarcity

filed under: inspiration, book, thinking, commentary, emotions, support network

Are you thinking that life is unfair? That you might not be worthy of having a child? That Choice Motherhood is a path of defeat? That no one has chosen you? That you are an oddball for even considering this voyage? That your child would be branded as an outsider? Before you embark on this journey consider these words from Victoria Castle, author of The Trance of Scarcity.

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