On our yahoo discussion group for Choice Moms on the journey after the age of 40, a woman asked for stories of hope from others who had paid that kind of money, at that age, and found success.
The woman had tried nine IUIs, and learned this week, as we approach the Christmas holiday, that this last one didn’t work either. She’s worried about the expense of IVF, of course.
Women have started to respond. (And if you want to join this group, for women over 40 who are Choice Moms, or are embarking on the path after the age of 40, apply for free membership here.)
Such as the 41-year-old, now 12 weeks pregnant with twins, who last fall had had to correct blocked fallopian tube and cysts, after getting out of a relationship that didn’t work. Her retrieval netted 27 eggs — 14 embryos! Her second transfer succeeded.
Another woman reported she did her first IVF after three IUIs. Her retrieval yielded nine mature eggs, five put back in, but none worked. She had to do her second IVF early, because an egg was maturing quickly, and only two eggs were retrieved. But both were fertilized and implanted. “And now I’m the happy mama of a six-month-old perfect daughter! I was 43 when I had her (turned 44 the next month) and did everything in 10 months. I did everything I could to make this happen, I’ll figure out my debt another time. Go for it!”
What about you? Whether it is about IVF after 40, or something else on the journey to motherhood, what stories of hope can you share as we close the chapter on another year and open up to a new 2012?