Listen to experts and single women talk to us about a wide range of topics. This one-of-a-kind library includes audio clips and full podcast episodes that I have specifically produced for the Choice Mom community.

Show your thanks to our 2010 sponsors California Cryobank and Sepal Reproductive Devices for making this audio library on ChoiceMoms.org possible. Click on these links to their websites to show that you're paying attention to their support.

In addition to the posts you'll see below that highlight certain topics, you can visit the Choice Chat hosting agent on Libsyn for our current library of 40 shows. IMPORTANT: This blog post will give you direct links to each of them.

Posted September 13, 2010 at 11:40 AM

What Choice Moms are listening to

filed under: podcast, feature, adoption, anonymous donor, becoming, being, commentary, daddy question, dating, emotions, event insights, expert insight, fertility, genetics, growing up without a father, healthy living, home insemination, known donor, legal, miscarriage, money matters, newborn, numbers, parenting, profile, resources, sperm, , stress relief, support network, thinking, trying, waiting, doula, ChoiceChat

Lately I have been hearing from women who would love for me to return to creating new podcasts. I took 2011 off from the work, but hope to return this year with new shows -- and perhaps a webinar series! I currently have 46 shows available, with more than 39,000 downloads. Here's what's available.

Posted May 3, 2011 at 7:05 AM

Q&A: celebrating Father's Day

filed under: being, daddy question, anonymous donor, ChoiceKids, donor conception, donor offspring, expert insight, growing up without a father, Minnesota, parenting, podcast, QandA, resources, telling and talking, becoming

How do we celebrate Father's Day?

Posted May 3, 2011 at 6:30 AM

Q&A: Talking about half-siblings

filed under: being, daddy question, anonymous donor, ChoiceKids, donor conception, donor offspring, expert insight, growing up without a father, Minnesota, parenting, podcast, QandA, resources, telling and talking, becoming

A San Francisco Choice Mom wrote to me recently, asking how to address the half-sibling topic with her son. She's been in contact with two lesbian couples on the East Coast who have sons from the same donor.

Posted April 28, 2011 at 7:25 AM

Meet Cathi: North Carolina coordinator

filed under: NorthCarolina, thinking, trying, waiting, becoming, being, fertility, profile, stress relief, humor, support network, newborn, pregnancy, emotions, home insemination, regional guides, podcast

Any of you who have been following Choice Mom resources over the years is likely acquainted with Cathi. She found the humor in the stress of trying to self-inseminate, in learning about her own fertility, in being pregnant, in being the mom of a newborn, and now in being simply, joyfully, Mom. Here is her story in a nutshell.

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Posted April 20, 2011 at 8:15 AM

Q&A: the daddy question

filed under: being, daddy question, anonymous donor, ChoiceKids, donor conception, donor offspring, expert insight, growing up without a father, Minnesota, parenting, podcast, QandA, resources, telling and talking, becoming

This has come up so frequently lately that I want to focus our attention again on responses to these topics: What do we tell our children, and others, about how they were conceived? About why they don't have a dad?

Posted April 4, 2011 at 10:45 AM

Are IUI and IVF not viable for you? Other options...

filed under: trying, waiting, adoption, donor egg, eggs, embryo, emotions, expert insight, feature, IVF, podcast, surrogacy, stress

Back in August 2010, two wonderful colleagues talked with each other in a radio show about moving beyond the "simple" conception options to surrogacy, adoption, embryo donation, egg donation and more. Here are highlights, and a direct link to the show.

Posted December 28, 2010 at 12:20 PM

Choice Tips of 2010

filed under: resources, tips, thinking, trying, waiting, becoming, being, adoption, fertility, support network, QandA, regional guides, commentary, donor conception, emotions, event insights, expert insight, feature, home insemination, known donor, legal, money matters, newborn, parenting, organization, podcast, stress, telling and talking

Here it is! For a limited time, the special new baby for our Choice Mom community. Our Choice of ChoiceMoms.org tips from 2010, featuring everything from Organization to Building a Support Network, Q&A to Commentary.

Posted November 11, 2010 at 2:35 PM

PODCAST: two full shows on adoption

filed under: podcast, adoption, open adoption, ChoiceChat

There are two complete "Choosing Single Motherhood" radio shows that opened up the adoption conversation, now available on our Choice Chat podcast.

Posted October 27, 2010 at 10:55 AM

Spotlight: California Cryobank

filed under: thinking, trying, sperm, sperm bank, , event insights, insemination, podcast, policy, products, resources, LosAngeles, donor offspring, open-identity donor, anonymous donor, ChoiceKids

Several years ago I got a call from the long-time co-founder of California Cryobank (CCB), gently and intelligently "checking me out" as an educational partner in his attempt to help his colleagues in the sperm bank industry understand why some policies needed to change. Since then...

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Posted October 12, 2010 at 12:25 PM

Birds and the Bees for Grown-ups

filed under: podcast, fertility, WashingtonDC, SanFrancisco, doctor, ovulation, trying

It's amazing what we discover we don't know about how to conceive when we're really trying to. These three notable fertility specialists spell everything out on the "Choosing Single Motherhood" radio show.

Posted October 7, 2010 at 12:20 PM

Dealing with jealousy and judgment

filed under: podcast, trying, waiting, emotions, expert insight, stress relief

How do you deal with your jealousy about other pregnancies and families...or judgment from others about your own? This podcast will help.

Posted September 10, 2010 at 3:05 PM

Choice Mom Guide to Building a Support Network

filed under: support network, stress, miscarriage, newborn, podcast, thinking, trying, fertility, waiting, becoming, being

By now I hope you've had a chance to explore the "support_network" keyword on ChoiceMoms.org, because I think this is the most important and valuable information any parent needs. But if you haven't seen everything we've offered here from fellow moms and experts, here's a shortlist of some of my favorite items in it.

Posted July 26, 2010 at 9:40 AM

Debating IUI v IVF

filed under: fertility, IVF, Atlanta, insemination, podcast

A hard decision for Choice Moms is whether to put a lot of money into one IVF attempt, or to try potentially multiple cycles of less expensive IUI treatments. Here's what one fertility expert advises.

Dr. Jim Toner on IUI v IVF

I apologize for the static during the interview; our phone connection ended up not being great

IUI v IVF

Posted July 19, 2010 at 9:30 AM

Keeping organized about your fertility journey

filed under: podcast, expert insight, insemination, SanFrancisco, organization, stress, fertility, trying, work, simplify

Trying to purposely conceive, by quietly fitting doctor inseminations in with work schedules, is highly stressful. Kim Guay, of A Clear Vision Organizing, spoke to Choice Moms at our San Francisco event about how to stay organized, well into our future lives as moms.

Kim Guay: being ready for the fertility rollercoaster

Kim Guay (6 minutes), A Clear Vision Organizing

Posted July 12, 2010 at 8:00 AM

#1 regret: waiting too long to conceive

filed under: podcast, thinking, fertility, commentary, trying, waiting, doctor

Of the hundreds of stories I've heard from Choice Moms over the years, one of the most common threads I've heard in hindsight is "I wish I hadn't waited so long."

3 Regrets in hindsight

What do women wish they had known before they embarked on the Choice Mom journey?

Regret #1: waiting (6.5 minutes)

Regret #2: doctor (11 minutes)

Regret #3: origin story (10 minutes)

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Posted July 5, 2010 at 9:20 AM

What's love got to do with it?

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, fertility, stress, emotions, expert insight, insemination, SanFrancisco, inspiration

Even if insemination wasn't your first choice for having a child, there is still an important factor of love in the equation, as Maia Midwifery's Kristin Kali talked about at our Choice Mom event in San Francisco.

Fertility journey: Love and stress

At our San Francisco event, Maia Midwifery's Kristin Kali talked with women about the factors of love and stress in the fertility journey (9 minute clip)

Balancing love and stress

Posted July 5, 2010 at 8:55 AM

Ask the Fertility Expert

filed under: podcast, fertility, trying, expert insight, feature, insemination, ChoiceChat

I have interviewed many fertility experts for questions specifically posed by the Choice Mom community. Here are audio clips from some of those conversations.

Fertility Q&A

How does follicle count matter?

How does my age impact my fertility?

What should I understand about my eggs?

What are your treatment options?

What effect does stress have on fertility?

How does my weight have an impact?

Posted July 5, 2010 at 8:40 AM

Jessica's story

filed under: podcast, ChoiceChat, known donor, thinking, insemination, sperm, profile

Before Jessica had her baby girl in May, she had a long journey of thinking, and negotiating with a known donor. Here's her story in audio form.

Choice Chat Profiles

I have so many wonderful conversations with Choice Moms. This growing library will feature some of them.

Choice Chat: Jessica

In this 10-minute chat we talk about aging and fertility, and her original choice to use a known donor

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Posted June 18, 2010 at 9:40 PM

The stress of fertility

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, fertility, Minnesota, emotions, insemination, profile, stress, support network, waiting

One of the best gifts of Choice Mom networking events is when small groups of women on similar paths find each other to discuss their joys and concerns. Here's what women in the Trying stage talked about with counselor Krista Post.

Fertility stress

As strong-minded women, we can underestimate the anxiety of the fertility process. As someone who has experienced fertility challenges herself, Krista Post offered great insight on the importance of understanding what the success rates do and do not tell us. She also opened up the conversation for women to share the stress they were feeling about multiple attempts at conceiving.

Success rates (3.5 minutes)

Fertility Anxiety (7.5 minutes)

Posted June 10, 2010 at 5:25 PM

AUDIO: Transracial adoption

filed under: Minnesota, adoption, transracial, parenting, international adoption, ChoiceChat, podcast

If you're thinking of adopting transracially, or are heading a transracial family, listen here for insight. The experts we assembled at a recent Choice Moms event included two Choice Moms who were raised in transracial families, a woman who parented a young woman from a refugee camp, a representative from Children's Home Society, and several Choice Moms who are raising a transracial family.

Transracial adoption

At a Choice Moms networking event in Minneapolis, we gathered a group of women and experts together to talk about transracial adoption challenges and insights.

Part 1: Experts

Part 2: moms talk transracial adoption

Posted April 29, 2010 at 8:10 AM

Data on Choice Moms

filed under: being, survey, thinking, trying, podcast, feature, hot topic, news, research, numbers

It's been a big week for keeping up with media requests. NOT, as I had expected, because of my recent debate with a father's rights advocate (thanks to ALL of you for adding your voice to the comments on PublicSquare.net that show our rationality), but simply accidental. Thought you might be interested in hearing what I've been repeating this week about who we are.

Posted April 5, 2010 at 12:45 PM

Surviving Newborn Boot Camp as a Single Parent

filed under: podcast, newborn, becoming, emotions, inspiration, organization, support network, stress, breastfeeding, work, fertility

An Australian woman who is going to college in the U.S. while raising a newborn, and a firefighter with two young children, share their tips about how to survive baby boot camp as a single parent.

Posted March 19, 2010 at 12:30 PM

Explaining "family" and "donor"

filed under: podcast, known donor, ChoiceKids, emotions, telling and talking, growing up without a father

When your uncle is also the sperm donor who helped your lesbian parents conceive, you might presume "the" conversation about your origins would be a hard one. And what happens afterward?

Telling the story

In addition to the "Do I Have a Daddy?" tracks available from this website, this growing library of audio clips (courtesy of Sepal Reproductive Devices and California Cryobank) helps us find the words, understand the conversation, and settle our nerves.

Real uncle is donor

When a lesbian couple turned to the non-carrying partner's brother for sperm, they knew they'd eventually have a big conversation with their daughter. (6 minute clip from upcoming radio show)

Posted March 4, 2010 at 3:50 PM

Our 3 biggest regrets

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, emotions, being, ChoiceChat, ChoiceKids, doctor, commentary, daddy question, donor offspring, open-identity donor, open adoption, telling and talking

There are three things Choice Moms report in hindsight are their biggest regrets. What do you think they are?

3 Regrets in hindsight

What do women wish they had known before they embarked on the Choice Mom journey?

Regret #1: waiting (6.5 minutes)

Regret #2: doctor (11 minutes)

Regret #3: origin story (10 minutes)

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Posted February 25, 2010 at 8:05 PM

When your clinic wants you to do a psych evaluation

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, fertility, emotions, expert insight, support network, telling and talking, tips

It can seem off-putting when your fertility doctor asks you to do a psychological evaluation before embarking on Choice Motherhood. But it's common at many clinics.

Posted February 20, 2010 at 4:35 PM

Why it's important to report a donor birth

filed under: podcast, waiting, becoming, donor offspring, policy

A majority of families using donor conception do not report births after the fact. This has a tremendous impact on the industry. The numbers of offspring born to a sperm donor, and even to egg donors, are generally vastly under-reported. If there is a genetic abnormality that surfaces in later years, families cannot be notified.

Tracking donor births

Tracking donor births

Posted February 20, 2010 at 8:45 AM

Building a family with donor conception

filed under: anonymous donor, ChoiceKids, donor offspring, podcast, open-identity donor, expert insight, ChoiceChat

I have talked to many experts -- including donor-conceived adults -- about the pros, cons, strengths and weaknesses of anonymous and open-identity donor conception as the method to building a family. Listen in:

Posted February 11, 2010 at 3:35 PM

Newborn baby boot camp: stress reduction

filed under: podcast, becoming, stress, newborn, expert insight, healthy living

When you're suffering from the stresses and strains of newborn baby boot camp, listen to these words of advice from noted pediatrician Dr. Robert Sears.

Baby boot camp

Here's what you need to know about newborn days as a single mom.

Dr. Sears: stress relief

Posted February 11, 2010 at 3:20 PM

Audio: Home Insemination

filed under: podcast, ChoiceChat, trying, home insemination

Listen to this growing library of clips and podcast excerpts about home insemination.

Home Insemination

a compilation of clips from the Choice Chat podcast

fresh vs. frozen sperm

Kristin Kali of Maia Midwifery on the life span of fresh and frozen sperm, excerpt from podcast (2008)

cervical cap vs. syringe

what method does IntegraMed's Dr. Jim Toner (Atlanta) recommend for insemination?

do you need to worry about hostile mucous?

Posted February 11, 2010 at 2:55 PM

Adoption options

filed under: podcast, adoption, open adoption, international adoption, ChoiceChat, thinking, trying

There are some creative and practical methods to adoption, even for today's single. Listen to this insight from single women who have adopted.

Adoption options

Listen to stories and insight about the adoption journey

Lee Varon tip: logistics

Shelly: open adoption

18 minute podcast (2008)

Varon resources

Posted February 11, 2010 at 2:45 PM

Consider cord blood banking

filed under: podcast, waiting, cord blood, expert insight

While you're waiting to deliver, listen to this 13-minute interview with Dr. Charles Sims about the benefits of cord blood banking.

Cord Blood Banking

a discussion with Dr. Charles Sims about the benefits of cord blood banking

Dr. Sims: cord blood

Posted February 6, 2010 at 8:25 PM

What anonymous-donor offspring think

filed under: podcast, anonymous donor, donor offspring, ChoiceKids, research

Have you wondered what offspring conceived from donor sperm think about as they get older?

Posted February 4, 2010 at 10:30 PM

Lori Gottlieb: Are women too picky?

filed under: podcast, thinking, dating, news, hot topic, being, expert insight, ChoiceChat

Choice Mom Lori Gottlieb made headlines two years ago when she wrote an Atlantic Monthly piece suggesting that maybe single women like her, opting to have kids alone, were simply too picky about finding a partner. Now she's made headlines again with her New York Times best-selling book.

Dating

It's not easy to take this step when you'd rather have a partner. Or to look for the right partner after you've become a single mom. Here are thoughts on the process.

Choice Morsel

We revisit with Choice Mom Lori Gottlieb as she unveils her book about finding the right partner.

Choice Moms talk about dating

A group of women at a Choice Mom networking event talk bluntly about the prospects of dating as a single woman.

Posted February 2, 2010 at 6:40 AM

Negotiating with a known donor

filed under: podcast, known donor, home insemination, legal, expert insight

There are many things to talk about with a known donor candidate. This Choice Chat podcast covers many of the issues with two unique experts.

Using a known donor

Known Donor 1

1) a known donor talks about the negotiation process; 2) reproductive law expert Ami Jaeger talks about the legalities involved (18 minutes, 2008)

Posted January 29, 2010 at 10:15 PM

Choosing a Sperm Bank Carefully

filed under: anonymous donor, trying, sperm bank, policy, podcast, feature, expert insight

A fatal heart condition was passed on to at least nine of a donor's 24 children. While screening for all genetic issues is not possible, the question is: if this came to light for your donor, how would you (and the donor) learn about it? Read new comments on this post, and add your own for our report card.

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Posted January 24, 2010 at 9:35 PM

How-to guide for conceiving as a single woman

filed under: insemination, fertility, trying, podcast, terms, expert insight, ovulation, IVF, drugs, stress, support network

Q: I am looking into having a child with donor insemination, but I am not sure where to begin, and what to expect about cost. What should I know?