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This one-of-a-kind library includes audio clips, full podcast episodes and links to online radio shows that I have specifically produced for the Choice Mom community.

Posted July 26, 2010 at 9:40 AM

Debating IUI v IVF

filed under: fertility, IVF, Atlanta, insemination, podcast

A hard decision for Choice Moms is whether to put a lot of money into one IVF attempt, or to try potentially multiple cycles of less expensive IUI treatments. Here's what one fertility expert advises.

Dr. Jim Toner on IUI v IVF

I apologize for the static during the interview; our phone connection ended up not being great

IUI v IVF

Posted July 19, 2010 at 9:30 AM

Keeping organized about your fertility journey

filed under: podcast, expert insight, insemination, SanFrancisco, organization, stress

Trying to purposely conceive, by quietly fitting doctor inseminations in with work schedules, is highly stressful. Kim Guay, of A Clear Vision Organizing, spoke to Choice Moms at our San Francisco event about how to stay organized, well into our future lives as moms.

Kim Guay: being ready for the fertility rollercoaster

Kim Guay (6 minutes), A Clear Vision Organizing

Posted July 12, 2010 at 8:00 AM

#1 regret: waiting too long to conceive

filed under: podcast, thinking, fertility, commentary, trying, waiting, choosing doctor

Of the hundreds of stories I've heard from Choice Moms over the years, one of the most common threads I've heard in hindsight is "I wish I hadn't waited so long."

3 Regrets in hindsight

What do women wish they had known before they embarked on the Choice Mom journey?

Regret #1: waiting (6.5 minutes)

Regret #2: doctor (11 minutes)

Regret #3: origin story (10 minutes)

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Posted July 5, 2010 at 9:20 AM

What's love got to do with it?

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, fertility, stress, emotions, expert insight, insemination, SanFrancisco

Even if insemination wasn't your first choice for having a child, there is still an important factor of love in the equation, as Maia Midwifery's Kristin Kali talked about at our Choice Mom event in San Francisco.

Fertility journey: Love and stress

At our San Francisco event, Maia Midwifery's Kristin Kali talked with women about the factors of love and stress in the fertility journey (9 minute clip)

Balancing love and stress

Posted July 5, 2010 at 8:55 AM

Ask the Fertility Expert

filed under: podcast, fertility, trying, expert insight, feature, insemination

I have interviewed many fertility experts for questions specifically posed by the Choice Mom community. Here are audio clips from some of those conversations.

Fertility Q&A

How does follicle count matter?

How does my age impact my fertility?

What should I understand about my eggs?

What are your treatment options?

What effect does stress have on fertility?

How does my weight have an impact?

Posted July 5, 2010 at 8:40 AM

Jessica's story

filed under: podcast, Choice_Chat, known_donor, thinking, insemination, sperm, profile

Before Jessica had her baby girl in May, she had a long journey of thinking, and negotiating with a known donor. Here's her story in audio form.

Choice Chat Profiles

I have so many wonderful conversations with Choice Moms. This growing library will feature some of them.

Choice Chat: Jessica

In this 10-minute chat we talk about aging and fertility, and her original choice to use a known donor

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Posted June 18, 2010 at 9:40 PM

The stress of fertility

filed under: thinking, trying, fertility, Minnesota, Choice Chat, emotions, insemination, podcast, profile, stress, support network, waiting

One of the best gifts of Choice Mom networking events is when small groups of women on similar paths find each other to discuss their joys and concerns. Here's what women in the Trying stage talked about with counselor Krista Post.

Fertility stress

As strong-minded women, we can underestimate the anxiety of the fertility process. As someone who has experienced fertility challenges herself, Krista Post offered great insight on the importance of understanding what the success rates do and do not tell us. She also opened up the conversation for women to share the stress they were feeling about multiple attempts at conceiving.

Success rates (3.5 minutes)

Fertility Anxiety (7.5 minutes)

Posted June 10, 2010 at 5:25 PM

AUDIO: Transracial adoption

filed under: adoption, transracial, parenting, Minnesota, international adoption, Choice Chat, podcast

If you're thinking of adopting transracially, or are heading a transracial family, listen here for insight. The experts we assembled at a recent Choice Moms event included two Choice Moms who were raised in transracial families, a woman who parented a young woman from a refugee camp, a representative from Children's Home Society, and several Choice Moms who are raising a transracial family.

Transracial adoption

At a Choice Moms networking event in Minneapolis, we gathered a group of women and experts together to talk about transracial adoption challenges and insights.

Part 1: Experts

Part 2: moms talk transracial adoption

Posted April 29, 2010 at 8:10 AM

Data on Choice Moms

filed under: being, Choice Mom survey, thinking, trying, podcast, feature, hot topic, news, research

It's been a big week for keeping up with media requests. NOT, as I had expected, because of my recent debate with a father's rights advocate (thanks to ALL of you for adding your voice to the comments on PublicSquare.net that show our rationality), but simply accidental. Thought you might be interested in hearing what I've been repeating this week about who we are.

Posted April 5, 2010 at 12:45 PM

Surviving Newborn Boot Camp as a Single Parent

filed under: podcast, newborn, becoming, emotions, inspiration, organization, support network, stress, breastfeeding

An Australian woman who is going to college in the U.S. while raising a newborn, and a firefighter with two young children, share their tips about how to survive baby boot camp as a single parent.

Posted March 19, 2010 at 12:30 PM

Explaining "family" and "donor"

filed under: podcast, known_donor, Choice_Kids, emotions, telling_and_talking, growing_up_without_a_father

When your uncle is also the sperm donor who helped your lesbian parents conceive, you might presume "the" conversation about your origins would be a hard one. And what happens afterward?

Telling the story

In addition to the "Do I Have a Daddy?" tracks available from this website, this growing library of audio clips (courtesy of Sepal Reproductive Devices and California Cryobank) helps us find the words, understand the conversation, and settle our nerves.

Real uncle is donor

When a lesbian couple turned to the non-carrying partner's brother for sperm, they knew they'd eventually have a big conversation with their daughter. (6 minute clip from upcoming radio show)

Posted March 4, 2010 at 3:50 PM

Our 3 biggest regrets

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, emotions, being, Choice Chat, Choice Kids, choosing doctor, commentary, daddy question, donor offspring, open-identity donor, open adoption, telling and talking

There are three things Choice Moms report in hindsight are their biggest regrets. What do you think they are?

3 Regrets in hindsight

What do women wish they had known before they embarked on the Choice Mom journey?

Regret #1: waiting (6.5 minutes)

Regret #2: doctor (11 minutes)

Regret #3: origin story (10 minutes)

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Posted February 25, 2010 at 8:05 PM

When your clinic wants you to do a psych evaluation

filed under: podcast, thinking, trying, fertility, emotions, expert insight, support network, telling and talking, tips

It can seem off-putting when your fertility doctor asks you to do a psychological evaluation before embarking on Choice Motherhood. But it's common at many clinics.

Posted February 20, 2010 at 4:35 PM

Why it's important to report a donor birth

filed under: podcast, waiting, becoming, donor offspring, policy

A majority of families using donor conception do not report births after the fact. This has a tremendous impact on the industry. The numbers of offspring born to a sperm donor, and even to egg donors, are generally vastly under-reported. If there is a genetic abnormality that surfaces in later years, families cannot be notified.

Tracking donor births

Tracking donor births

Posted February 20, 2010 at 8:45 AM

Building a family with donor conception

filed under: anonymous donor, Choice Kids, donor offspring, podcast, open-identity donor, expert insight

I have talked to many experts -- including donor-conceived adults -- about the pros, cons, strengths and weaknesses of anonymous and open-identity donor conception as the method to building a family. Listen in:

Posted February 11, 2010 at 3:35 PM

Newborn baby boot camp: stress reduction

filed under: podcast, becoming, stress, newborn, expert insight

When you're suffering from the stresses and strains of newborn baby boot camp, listen to these words of advice from noted pediatrician Dr. Robert Sears.

Baby boot camp

Here's what you need to know about newborn days as a single mom.

Dr. Sears: stress relief

Posted February 11, 2010 at 3:20 PM

Audio: Home Insemination

filed under: home insemination, podcast, Choice Chat, trying

Listen to this growing library of clips and podcast excerpts about home insemination.

Home Insemination

a compilation of clips from the Choice Chat podcast

fresh vs. frozen sperm

Kristin Kali of Maia Midwifery on the life span of fresh and frozen sperm, excerpt from podcast (2008)

cervical cap vs. syringe

what method does IntegraMed's Dr. Jim Toner (Atlanta) recommend for insemination?

do you need to worry about hostile mucous?

Posted February 11, 2010 at 2:55 PM

Adoption options

filed under: podcast, adoption, open adoption, international adoption

There are some creative and practical methods to adoption, even for today's single. Listen to this insight from single women who have adopted.

Adoption options

Listen to stories and insight about the adoption journey

Lee Varon tip: logistics

Shelly: open adoption

18 minute podcast (2008)

Varon resources

Posted February 11, 2010 at 2:45 PM

Consider cord blood banking

filed under: podcast, waiting, cord blood, expert insight

While you're waiting to deliver, listen to this 13-minute interview with Dr. Charles Sims about the benefits of cord blood banking.

Cord Blood Banking

a discussion with Dr. Charles Sims about the benefits of cord blood banking

Dr. Sims: cord blood

Posted February 6, 2010 at 8:25 PM

What anonymous-donor offspring think

filed under: podcast, anonymous donor, donor offspring, Choice Kids, research

Have you wondered what offspring conceived from donor sperm think about as they get older?

Posted February 4, 2010 at 10:30 PM

Lori Gottlieb: Are women too picky?

filed under: podcast, thinking, dating, news, hot topic, being, expert insight

Choice Mom Lori Gottlieb made headlines two years ago when she wrote an Atlantic Monthly piece suggesting that maybe single women like her, opting to have kids alone, were simply too picky about finding a partner. Now she's made headlines again with her New York Times best-selling book.

Dating

It's not easy to take this step when you'd rather have a partner. Or to look for the right partner after you've become a single mom. Here are thoughts on the process.

Choice Morsel

We revisit with Choice Mom Lori Gottlieb as she unveils her book about finding the right partner.

Choice Moms talk about dating

A group of women at a Choice Mom networking event talk bluntly about the prospects of dating as a single woman.

Posted February 2, 2010 at 6:40 AM

Negotiating with a known donor

filed under: podcast, known_donor, home_insemination, legal, expert_insight

There are many things to talk about with a known donor candidate. This Choice Chat podcast covers many of the issues with two unique experts.

Using a known donor

Known Donor 1

1) a known donor talks about the negotiation process; 2) reproductive law expert Ami Jaeger talks about the legalities involved (18 minutes, 2008)

Posted January 29, 2010 at 10:15 PM

Choosing a Sperm Bank Carefully

filed under: anonymous donor, trying, sperm bank, policy, podcast, feature, expert insight

A fatal heart condition was passed on to at least nine of a donor's 24 children. While screening for all genetic issues is not possible, the question is: if this came to light for your donor, how would you (and the donor) learn about it? Read new comments on this post, and add your own for our report card.

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Posted January 24, 2010 at 9:35 PM

How-to guide for conceiving as a single woman

filed under: fertility, trying, podcast, definition of terms, expert insight, ovulation, IVF, drugs, stress, support network

Q: I am looking into having a child with donor insemination, but I am not sure where to begin, and what to expect about cost. What should I know?