A Choice Mom had to terminate at 17 weeks because of chromosomal issues with a baby who was conceived after seven IUI attempts. She was heartbroken, and turned to the discussion board for support. Stacy is one who responded with her story of how she found the resources for coping with miscarriage.
“I’m so sorry for the horrible loss you’ve experienced. What a heartbreaking story.
Each loss is different in many ways, but I too have experienced a loss that took me to a depth of sorrow I’d never before seen before. It is scary and hard to imagine ever coming back from that. To come so close to finally holding a baby in my arms to having my dreams shattered and knowing that the moment I would become a mother was suddenly so far away I couldn’t even see it or imagine it. It’s a lot to process.
For me, I got into battle mode and fought my way back. I enlisted a team of professionals to help me heal. I don’t know why but I found that bodywork was really helpful for emotional healing. Especially acupuncture. My weekly regimen included talk therapy, acupuncture, massage, chiropractic care, lots of prayer, and attending a neonatal loss support group. Every little thing helped me. I put lavender aromatherapy all over my house. I had my niece come and pack up the baby’s room so I didn’t have to see any of it.
This last one was really difficult but was very important to my healing. It took a heroic level of self discipline, but I forced myself to count my blessings every day, and focus on what was good in my life. All of this may sound like overkill but it was exactly what I needed in those first few months. I believe it helped me survive.
I’m here for you if you want to reach out. I can’t believe what a difference a year makes. I still feel sad often, and I’m still not a mom, but I manage to experience joy and optimism again and it’s such a wonderful sweet relief.
I wish you healing and a bright future.