By the age of 34, I had a graduate degree, a house, a good job and a few years of travel under my belt. I’d been trying to become a mom for 18 months and had 8 failed IUIs with a donor. I had chosen the donor route because I thought it would be faster, cheaper and easier than adoption. Boy, was I wrong. I took another look at adoption and decided to go for it. Here’s my story.
After waiting over a year for my adoption to finalize, I’ve accepted that I will never become a mother
through my current adoption program. I’ve learned a lot hard lessons along the way. The only
redeeming feature of my journey? The chance to tell others how to avoid a similar fate. If you are
considering adoption, here is what I’ve learned:
Choice Mom Valerie offered up these questions to ask any prospective adoption agency before considering them for your single-parent adoption…
Writes Valerie: I’ve been at a bus stop for a month now. Emanuel Levinas, a philosopher and writer, once wrote that ideas are like buses. We “board” them thinking it will carry us to where we want to go. But somewhere along the journey, we learn, we change, reality goes sideways and the bus, which…
One of my favorite websites is CreatingaFamily.com, run by Dawn Davenport. Like me, she’s developed a comprehensive resource for her community as a labor of love. Hers is specifically designed for anyone building families through adoption, egg and sperm donation, surrogacy. Here are highlights:
There are two complete "Choosing Single Motherhood" radio shows that opened up the adoption conversation, now available on our Choice Chat podcast.
It is hard for singles to find proactive friends in the adoption world. This list will help you find the right ones. We don’t recommend anyone as Choice Mom-friendly unless they are also open to the LGBT community.
In National Adoption Month I want to share some of the stories of single women who have become mothers because of adoption.