From the Introduction: “For 18 years I have been a Choice Mom. Not including the time Thinking, Trying, Preparing — or the short hormonal time during the first trimester of pregnancy when I wept in my New York City apartment, unsure about the daunting responsibility of raising a child on my own. I didn’t know…
During the process of writing “Choosing Single Motherhood: The Thinking Woman’s Guide,” I read a tremendous number of books about parenting, donor insemination, alternative family building and more. Now I’m selling some of those books to single women, researchers and thematic book collectors. They are listed in full as “Products” at Amazon under my Choice…
It’s Valentine’s Day. For the occasion, I’m writing my first Choice Mom commentary in quite a long while. It’s been too long since I’ve been in deeper communication with the community. This seems a nice occasion to return. I’ve never been particularly holiday-oriented. Perhaps it was because our family used to juggle around Christmas dates to accommodate…
During our holiday meal, my 13-year-old little girl finally paid me a compliment. She told me, indirectly and as non-chalantly as she could, that I had influenced her.
Revisiting a favorite Thanksgiving post from 2012 A few days ago I got an email from a Choice Mom of three who had some concerns. She asked if I knew anyone in the Choice Mom community who has four children. And, in fact, I do. So I put them in touch with each other. Even…
If you’ve ever spent time on a New York City subway, you might know what I mean by "the numbness veil." When we visited there again a few months ago for a Choice Mom event, I saw it on my teenage daughter’s face.
I met someone recently who is a project manager finished with two years of sustainable development work in Nigeria, preparing for a new adventure in South Sudan. As we talked alongside a bonfire that we stoked until 4 a.m., I was invigorated by the reminder that it was a spirit of adventure that enabled me to become a Choice Mom in the first place.
A guest op-ed contributor in The New York Times recently wrote to suggest that, since men are much less useful biologically than women, does "mankind really need men?"
There was a tiny girl with spray-painted purple hair leaping into the air on a bungee jump at a small town fair periodically squealing, "This is the best day ever!"
5. I will never meet a partner if I become a Choice Mom.
